Embracing your femininity in a leadership role is about finding a balance. Whilst I’m not in support of the traits behind being a girlboss (over-working, hustling, surviving on coffee, sacrificing happiness for work and success), I’m also not for being so relaxed that some would question your work ethic and commitment level. If you want to be taken seriously as a boss without having to compromise your femininity, you have to push yourself. Especially when you’re starting out, you have to be willing to work those long hours, take on challenging projects, and be able to separate your emotions from the work.
Feminine leadership doesn’t mean taking strolls at 2 pm on a Wednesday (most of the time). But it does mean giving yourself time when you need it and listening to your body and your needs. You can push yourself without destroying yourself.
Let’s break down what is not feminine leadership.
Thinking that Working Less Hours = Feminine Leadership
Feminine leadership isn’t necessarily about working less (unless that’s your desire). It’s about working from a place of joy, desire, creativity, love, and ease. If you can work 10 hours a day in this state (and you want to), then I say go for it! This is especially easier if you’re working on something that brings you joy or that you’re proud to be part of. If that’s not you, then create a work style that works for you. Just understand this: working less does not automatically mean that you’re in the energy of HER.
Having Less Masculine Energy in Your Life (hear me out on this one)
It’s important to have a balance of the feminine and the masculine in your workspace. Using an authoritative masculine energy balanced with the gentleness and ease of feminine energy is the best way to create an effective working style. Some believe that the two can’t coexist cohesively, but actually having masculine energy in your life can help you to truly embrace the feminine.
Being So In Your Feelings and Energy That You Come Across as Inauthentic and Not Grounded, Rooted, or a Trustworthy Source (ouch!)
In order for you to be your best boss you have to have the masculine structure necessary to allow your nervous system to feel safe to be in your feminine. When a woman doesn’t have enough masculine structure in her world (often combined with a lack of safety in being in her feminine), she’s notably frazzled, on edge, bitter, angry, short-tempered, and very often stressed. So when you’re trying to ‘do it all,’ yet you don’t have the plans, habits, systems, routines, and structures in place, you’ll find it’s 10x harder to do.
Feminine leadership is empowering, kind, and sets your team at ease. It doesn’t mean baths at 2 pm or sitting in your feelings when making important decisions. You have to create a work style that’s best for you, and that can mean infusing some masculine energy into your every day.
In order to be the best boss you can for yourself and your team, you have to be willing to make some personal sacrifices. Being able to balance days of long hours and endless work with self-care like the occasional long walk to clear your mind is a sign that you’re really working in your feminine.
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